• When a man is serious about a woman, he will wait a long time for sex. A lot of men would even wait for marriage.
  

I present to you our survey ...

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All individuals met the following criteria

Only men

Between the ages of 20 to 29

Heterosexual

No children

Never married

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Note: Phone numbers were selected randomly from the Rochester, New York phone book, the first week of March, 1995.

Note: Some questions were added to the questionaire after some people had been interviewed.

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Question: "Is it possible for you to fall in love with a woman without having sexual intercourse with her?"

Base: Only respondents who have been in love were asked.

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Question: "Can having sexual intercourse make the difference between falling in love and not falling in love for you?"

Base: Only respondents who have been in love were asked.

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Question:	Base:	Yes	No
"Did you ever have sexual intercourse with a woman you were in love with?"	Only respondents who have been in love were asked.	6	1

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Question: "If she did not have sexual intercourse with you, would you still have fallen in love with her?"

Base: Only respondents who have been in love and asnwered "Yes" to the previous question were asked.

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Question: "If there is a woman who you cannot see yourself falling in love with, and she has sexual intercourse with you, could that help you fall in love with her?"

Base: Only respondents who have been in love were asked.

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Question: "If you're dating a woman who you do not have any significant feelings for, and she has sexual intercourse with you, could this make you feel that she's special?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

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Question:	Base:	Yes	No
"Would you date a woman just to have sexual intercourse with her?"	All respondents were asked.	3	4
"Was there ever a time after the age of 18, that you would have dated a woman just to have sexual intercourse with her?"	Only respondents who answered "No" to the previous question were asked	2	2

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Question: "If you were dating and using a woman just for sexual intercourse, what's the longest you would have dated her for?"

Base: Only respondents who would use or would have used a woman for sex were asked.

Choices: The Respondent provided the number of months.

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Question: "If you were to date a woman just to have sexual intercourse with her, but you would have to date her weekly for 3/6/9/12 months before having sex with her, would you date her?"

Base: Only respondents who would use or would have used a woman for sex were asked.

Choices: The respondent was first asked the lowest length of time (3 months), and if he replied "Yes" then the next highest length of time (6 months) is asked, and this is repeated until "No" or "Maybe" is said.

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Question: "If you were dating and using a woman for sexual intercourse, what were the chances that you could fall in love with her?"

Base: Only respondents who have been in love and would use or would have used a woman for sex were asked.

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Question: "If you're dating a woman who you consider special and she does not have sexual intercourse quickly , does this character trait make her .... More appealing or Less Appealing?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

Graph: All respondents in base.

Graph: Only respondents in base who have been in love.

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Question: "If you're dating a woman who you consider special, and she wanted to wait for marriage before having sexual intercourse, would you wait?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

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Question: "If that meant dating her weekly for 12/9/6/3 months without sexual intercourse, would you wait ?"

Base: Only respondents who answered "Yes" on waiting for marriage were asked.

Choices: The men were first asked the highest amount (12 months), and if they said "Yes", no more questions were asked. If they said "Maybe" or "No", then 9 months was asked, and continued until they replied "Yes".

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Question: "If you're dating a woman who you consider special, and you would have to date her weekly for 3/6/9/12 months before having sexual intercourse, would you wait?"

Base: Only respondents who answered "Maybe" on waiting for marriage were asked.

Choices: The men were first asked the lowest amount (3 months), and if he said "Yes" then the next highest amount (6 months) was asked, and this was repeated until the respondent answered "No" or "Maybe".

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Question: "How would you feel if the woman you marry previously had sexual intercourse with another man that she loved?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

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Question: "How would you feel if the woman you marry had sexual intercourse quickly with the men that she previously dated?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

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Question: "How would you feel if the woman you marry previously had sexual intercourse with other men on one-night stands?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

Graph: All respondents in base.

Graph: Only respondents in base who have been in love.

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Question: "How would you feel if the woman you marry previously had never had sexual intercourse with another man?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

Graph: All respondents in base.

Graph: Only respondents in base who have been in love.

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Question: "Would you prefer the woman you marry to have previously had zero sex partners or more than zero sex partners?"

Base: All respondents were asked.

Graph: All respondents in base.

Graph: Only respondents in base who have been in love.

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Question:	Base:	Yes	No
"Do you feel there is a difference between being in love and being in lust ?"	All respondents were asked.	9	0
"Have you ever been in love ?"	All respondents were asked.	8	1
"Have you ever been in lust?"	All respondents were asked.	8	1

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Question: "Do you find it difficult to determine the difference between the two?"

Base: Only respondents who have been in love were asked.

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How this survey was conducted

The only extraneous comments that the interviewer used were phrases like "I understand" or "I see" so as not to bias or sway the interviewees response.

The interviewer was always a man. It was felt that a man would be more honest to another man, especially about using women. If a woman were to interview a man, he might try to impress her.

Telephone interviews were chosen because some anonymity is required for a survey on such a sensitive subject matter.

Reasons for the screening criteria

The age range that was looked for was 20 to 29, because that is the age group in which most men get married.

Only men who never had any children and had never been married were asked because it was felt that some men might be bitter or resentful and this might sway their opinion.

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Author's Opinion

Men are out for either lust or love and usually don't mix them up.

When a man is out for lust, all that he really desires from her is sex (the conquest). He does not take her seriously and does not have intentions of ending up with her. He is just in it for fun.

When a man is out for love, he will wait much longer because he desires more than just sex. He desires her. Then, one of the things a man prefers is purity (virgin/untouched). The reason purity is preferred is because he does have or could have feelings for her. When a man is in love with a woman and she has never been with another man, it'll make him feel good. But when a man is in love with a woman and she has been with other men, it'll bother him. And the more men there have been, the more it may bother him and the harder it may be for him to accept.

The way to tell if a man has serious intentions is if he waits a long time and/or gives her a commitment.

Purity has been important to men from the beginning of recorded history. Several thousands of years ago, the ancient Greeks encouraged homosexual acts among men so that there would be virgins for them to marry. Even 30 years ago, the women men married were virgins.

I think people should hold themselves to the same standards as they want the one they marry to hold themselves to. After all, to do otherwise is hypocritical.

The End

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